You know how you're in a conversation, and someone says something and your brain flags it, but you can't think of anything to say so you just smile and nod? And then later, your brain's analyzed it and you discover you actually do have an opinion. Well, "Nagging Thoughts" are going to be my outlet for expressing what I couldn't come up with a response for earlier.
Background: I was having a conversation with two guy friends and my sister, and we were talking about Twilight and how it caters to female fantasy, and I said, "Well, guys, take notes, because those are some of the things girls want." And both the guys immediately said, "I'm not going to pretend to a girl. I want to be loved the way I am." And at first, I felt shot down, and I agreed, I mean, who can argue against honesty and being accepted? But then I thought about it a few days later and now...
I think that's cheap. There are romantic elements that I want to experience. I want to be told I look gorgeous, and I want a guy to do my chores for me just because it'll make me feel special. And the thought that if, for example, I dated either of my guy friends in the conversation, if they didn't naturally want to say I looked pretty, or if they didn't feel like doing the dishes, they wouldn't. That in their opinion, if a guy wasn't born complimenting women and naturally a servant, that I shouldn't be able to experience romance. That honesty is more important.
Well, no, in my mind, it's not. Not at the expense of my self esteem. If I look and feel fat, and my significant other "lies" and gives me a compliment, I want it. If the last thing he "wants" to do is the dishes when it's my job but he knows the past week has been rough on him, I would greatly appreciate it if he denied himself and did my chore. I recognize that romance is not natural to some men, but I don't accept that as an excuse to be an asshole to your girlfriend, in the name of honesty.
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